19 May 2014

For Sarah & Nilla Wafers: 1935-2014

Hampton, VA 1975




Ft. Buchanan, Puerto Rico 1953 (Dad, 5th from left - Mom, far right)


Huntersville, NC 1972



San Juan, PR 1954



Sarah and Mark Tinseth, 1970

She did not allow her children to say anything to anyone about her lung cancer. A heavy smoker, she quit only five yrs ago.

My sisters and I were surprised to see how alike my parents, divorced for many years, were when it came to their final wishes. Cremation. No ceremony or service. I'm not sure whether they didn't want to put anyone out or just didn't care.

Mom did not like my blog and I don't blame her. It cost me a lot and regretful sacrifices were made. She wouldn't be happy about this post,  but some maternal relatives follow this blog and so these pictures are for you. They remind me of that kitchen table at the farm where you'd lift a piece of table cloth and find corn bread, country ham, red eye gravy and my favorite, Nilla Wafer banana pudding.

10 comments:

Kathy said...

I'm sorry for your loss.

Anonymous said...

Keeping you in my thoughts Tin.

My condolences.

--Matthew

LPC said...

I am so sorry for your loss. May your grieving bring you what you need.

Oyster Guy said...

So sorry for this. I miss my parents every day but i truly believe it is not an end but a new beginning. Sometimes my last wishes run along the terms you describe but it is more of a desire to be over and done with it as quickly as possible.

I can understand how many feel awkward about sharing so many personal things on a blog, I feel awkward reading them. But it is a writer's gift to share and a reader's gratitude.

Smitty said...

Eternal rest grant unto your dear mother and let perpetual light shine upon her. She gave you life.

Pax Domini sit semper vobiscum...

JKG said...

Sorry, Tin Tin.

You only get one, and there's no one else like her.

Anonymous said...

Condolences John, Ta'er

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. Nicely written post.

-DB

RulingPart said...

It comes and it goes. The older I get the more I realize what a blip we are in time. Grandma and Grandpa were the same way. Making a big production out of it doesn't change the nature of the thing. Best to go quiet and with a little grace. God bless.

M.Lane said...

I'm thinking of you. I wasn't on line for a bit and just read this.

I hope you are finding some peace.

ML